What kind of lover are you?

Hmm, my blogs looking pretty dead... probably because im more into my physical pen-and-paper journal (i've been making them for 4 years now!!)

today i'll fill it up with an interesting article i found and wrote in my other journal - What kind of lover are you?

Ludus:
...seeks entertainment and excitement, and sees love as a game. To the ludic lover, love is not to be taken seriously, emotions are to be held in check lest they get out of hand and make trouble. The ludic lover retains a partner only so long as the partner is interesting and amusing. When the partner is no longer interesting enough, its time to change.

Pragma:
...is practical and traditional and seeks compatibility in a relationship in which important needs and desires will be satisfied. The pragmatic lover is concerned with the social qualifications of a potential mate even more than with social qualities. Family and background are extremely important to the pragmatic lover, who relies not so much on feelings as on logic.

Eros:
...seeks beauty and sensuality and focuses on physical attractiveness, sometimes to the exclusion of qualities we might consider more important and more lasting. The erotic lover has an idealized image of beauty that is unattainable in reality. Consequently, the erotic lover often feels unfulfilled.

Manic:
...is an obsessive love that needs to give and recieve constant attention and affection. When this is not given and recieved, or when an expression of increased commitment is not returned, reactions such as depression, jealousy and self-doubt are often experienced; and can lead to the extreme lows characteristic of the manic lover.

Storge:
...is a peaceful and tranquil love. Like Ludus, storge lacks passion and intensity. Storgic lovers set out not to find a lover but to establish a companion-like relationship with someone they know and whith whom they can share interests and activities. Storgic love is a gradual process of unfolding thoughts and feelings, and is sometimes difficult to seperate from friendship.

Agapic:
...is compassionate and selfless. The agapic lover loves both the stranger on the road and the annoying neighbour. Jesus Christ, Bhudda and Ghandi all practiced and preached this unqualified spiritual love - a love that is offered without any expectation that the love will be returned or reciprocated.

(references - Joseph A. Devito, "Types Of Lovers" from Human Communication: The Basic Course, Pages 196-197. proper references will be updated soon)